Starbucks Log: Recognition

She waited, a slight furrow and frown clouding her face. She sat with her back straight studying the tiny screen on her cell phone. Simple yet elegant, she had decided on a pink cotton top and white slacks, set off by a silver bracelet and sandals with subtle bows.

1969Fred&Shellyhavingahug At last he came through the door. Blues were playing, the kind that bring wry smiles to people, the kind that make us all walk slower and sexier and even swagger just a bit, the kind that everyone has an understanding about, the kind that if we could we would glide to…sail to…at ceiling level.

She breathed out, put her cell down, curved into her chair and waited for him to notice her. A turn and a smile of recognition, and they were together.

And so it goes. We worry and wait and hope to be recognized. We hope for intimate recognition. The kind that turns a time of unbidden and unwanted worry into a sweet and salutary memory. The kind of recognition that lifts us to ceiling level. The kind that when we find it, it’s simply a fine elegant day.

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Moth wings and the truth in deception

bluemoth The picture is not too clear, the wings of the moth were vibrating when I took the shot. It was still early in the day when I came across her so I suspect she may have been warming herself. But in the brief moment her wings were still I was amazed by the evolutionary intelligence I was witnessing.

It’s difficult to see in the picture but this blue-eye wing-patterned moth keeps its predators away by looking for all the world like a predator itself. The visual effect, with both wings splayed, is that of the face of a cat. A good thing when your predators are mostly birds.

It’s a deception that works. Any bird on the hunt will take one look and glide on. The eye-spots on the wings are a kind of power equalizer.

In this context I’ve sometimes wondered if deception can be a form of truth. I recall a story a friend told me about a grade-school teacher who in front of the entire class asked a student if his father was abusing him. To the teacher, it was obvious that something of the sort was happening, but the student said no. The ignorance of the teacher notwithstanding, the student, in a very real sense told the truth. In that public context, in front of peers, friends and everyone else…how else could the young  boy have answered? To say no was as natural and right as having eye-spots on his wings. Context is still often everything.

I grew up in a Christian tradition that told us that all deception, all lying, was wrong. I recall the seriousness of a childhood debate in which we posed the question that if the Gestapo/Nazis etc. came to your door, would you lie or not, to keep your family safe. We were taught to be less wise than moths.

We can learn from the moth. Where there exists a power structure injurious to the life and well-being of a weaker person, a lie can be truer than the truth.

The pull of flow

This morning walking in the overcast, the winds light as a caress, the scent of moss and dew somehow eclipsing pavement dust…I feel the pull of flow…and walking, I give into it. And in that flow, I see how obstructed and jarring a day can be.

St. Benedict was on to and into the pull of flow. He found a way to let the day find itself…and so discovered within it, ways to cycle the mind, body, and spirit, giving each its proper due. He found a way to swerve around time jams and walk past its warps and blocks and weave the day into a week and a month and a life. And, I suspect, he had a full schedule, but was never busy.

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No one stops the movement of a day. Not Stephen Covey. Not even Joshua. The time capturing mechanisms are all illusory. What we have and what we’re built for is movement and motion, and if we’re not true to that–time is our enemy. So give in to the pull of flow. Look to the river. Or as Bruce Cockburn puts it, “To the motion be true.”

Outside this broad window, a young Trinidadian woman has no idea how perfect her pace keeps rhythm with the song I hear.

George Carlin hippy-dippy weatherman to withering satirist (1937-2008)

GeorgeCarlin-L1 George Carlin died yesterday. Sad news. My fondness for him began the first time I saw him on Ed Sullivan. I don’t remember his material for that show but I do remember the time he did the Hippy-Dippy Weatherman. “Forecast for this evening…increasing darkness tonight with light patches toward morning…” it was far and away my favourite Carlin character.

Still, not wanting to speak ill of the dead–although of course Carlin had no problem speaking ill-of, living or dead–but when George Carlin traded in comedy for caustic commentary, even though few could cut better, I dropped out.

His biting satire of all things may have gained him a new audience, but for me, he became just too much of a projectile. He showed no mercy. Well, admittedly, that’s his right, and as he saw it, his job as a comedian. As David Hinkley’s obit in the NY Daily relayed, “he always said his often-cynical satire simply reflected his real-life disdain for mankind’s greed, stupidity and inconsideration.”

But the comedy became wincing. For example, to wring a laugh out of the beheading of an Oklahoma corporate executive was satire that defeated itself. It was a sideways attack on greed perhaps, but Carlin was wilfully blind, or just blind, to his own special kind of inconsideration. Carlin

With age, he became unfunny. Caustic satire, yes, fair game in context, but a steady stream without so much as an inward glance not only loses appeal, it gets boring. Carlin seemed to just have one track. When things got boring he just upped the outrageous-ante. I guess I still appreciate a self-deprecating comic. One who draws me in by pointing out her own mania and then with a few great lines implicates the lot of us. I think Carlin used to do this. But over the last number of years he just sounded angry and miserable.

The tributes are coming in, he’s being lauded for telling us the “harsh truth,” and I guess he did that. Although harsh truth about humanity is hardly revelatory. I suppose it’s my problem, but I never got the sense that he interrogated himself anywhere as close as he did his targets, and admittedly, not all of his targets were straw-men…he wasn’t a fool. It’s just that I’m left wondering how his comedy and voice may have evolved had he developed, along with his annihilating ability at piercing pretensions, an accompanying self-questioning stance.

Seems to me that’s the kind of broad quizzical standpoint Al Sleet, the Hippy-Dippy Weatherman would have taken. He had the insight to see an encompassing view. As he said in his final and definitive broadcast, “The weather will continue to change on and off for a long, long time.”